Follow-ups that don't feel pushy.
Most owners don't reply to a first note, and that isn't a no. A few short, well-spaced follow-ups give them a fair chance. Here's what to send, when, and when to stop.
Three principles
- Few. Four touches in total, including the first note, at most. Then stop.
- Spaced. Each one arrives after the last has had time to be read and considered. Days apart at first, then weeks.
- Each adds something. A new reason to talk, a different channel, or a clean close. Never just a reminder that you wrote before.
The moment someone replies, on any channel, the follow-ups stop and the conversation starts. If they say no, you stop entirely.
The shape
| Touch | When | Channel | Purpose |
|---|---|---|---|
| First note | Day 1 | Why them, who you are, one small ask. | |
| Second | A few days later | A connection request, so they can see who you are. | |
| Third | About a week after the first | Email, same thread | One new reason to talk. |
| Last | A few weeks later | Email or LinkedIn | A gracious close. |
You don't have to use all four. If an owner has accepted your connection request and read your message without replying, it's often kinder to send the close and leave it there.
The second touch: LinkedIn
When to use it: a few days after your first email, when the owner hasn't replied. The point isn't to repeat yourself, it's to let them see that you're a real person at a real firm.
Hello [First name], I wrote to you recently about [Company]. I invest in [type of business] and would be glad to be connected, whether or not the timing is right for a conversation.
What to change: if you'd rather not mention the email, use the plain version from First notes to owners. Some owners prefer not to be reminded that they haven't replied.
The third touch: one new reason
When to use it: about a week after the first note, as a reply in the same email thread, so they can see the original underneath.
Dear [First name],
A short follow-up to my note below. [One new, relevant thing: something you've learned about the sector, a question about their business, or a little more about why you're interested in businesses like theirs.]
If a conversation would be of interest at some point, I'd be glad to work around your diary. If not, no reply is needed.
[Your name]
What to change: the new line is everything. Good examples: "Since writing, I've spoken to a few people in [sector] who mentioned [Company] as one of the firms they respect." (Only if true.) "I'm particularly interested in how businesses like yours have handled [a real change in the sector]." Bad examples: anything about your fund, your timeline, or other businesses you're talking to.
The last touch: a gracious close
When to use it: a few weeks after the third touch. This note tells the owner you're stopping, and leaves the door open on their terms. It's often the one that gets answered, because it asks for nothing.
Dear [First name],
I won't keep writing. I appreciate how many notes like mine you must receive.
If a conversation about [Company]'s future is ever of interest, now or in a few years, I'd be glad to hear from you. You can reach me at this address any time.
With best wishes,
[Your name]
What to change: keep it this short. Don't add a last pitch. If you have a genuine, specific reason to mention timing ("I'll be looking for the next year or so"), it's fine to say so; an invented deadline is not.
After this note, stop. Mark the owner as "no reply" with the date. If your thesis still fits in a year or so and you have something genuinely new to say, a fresh first note is reasonable. A fifth follow-up is not.
Phrases to avoid
- "Just bumping this up your inbox."
- "Did you see my last email?"
- "I haven't heard back, so I assume…"
- "Circling back" or "touching base".
- "I'll take your silence as…"
- Anything that suggests they owe you a reply. They don't.
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